>
> >Dear Sis Holly,
>
> >I was sorry to hear that you had to put up with an abusive lover. I went
> > through a similar experience, but I have a childhood that does include
> abuse,
> > unlike you. My grandfather was very abusive toward my aunt, mother, my
> >sisters, and me (and who knows who else?). And you are right, one never
> >knows
> > exactly what one ends up with when one starts a relationship. You know
> what,
> > though? I have discovered that by learning how a guy treats and feels
> about
> > his mother is often a big indicator. :)
>
> >Love and light and a big hug,
> >Julia
>
> Well, hey now, Sis Julia!
>
> Yeah, I have learned a lot from then. I thought I was wise in the ways of
> the world, of men & women -
> ha! He was a beautiful beautiful soul but he had been so damaged. He
> learned how to hide it and
> to use it to his "advantage" but had I known more about this issue of abuse
> I guess I would
> have seen the red flags - as it was, what I did know about him just brought
> out the BIG caretaker
> in me and aroused much compassion! And now I can't help feeling that he was
> a bearer of
> lessons meant to be learned - both good and bad!! And ain't that life?!
> Never could I bear him
> ill will . . . He was as much the victim and in need of particular lessons
> as much as anyone. Sometimes
> even, I'm glad I didn't recognize the signs as I'm not sure, no matter how
> terrifying life with my
> husband sometimes was, there was also much beauty and love and incredible
> experiences
> and the feeling that it was meant to be. I'm just grateful I knew when to
> get the hell out! And
> we stayed close (from a distance) until the day he died.
>
> I thank you for your caring and your wonderful hug! And I give you a warm
> hug right back!!!
>
> Love'n'Light!!!
> Holly
>
I love you both !
That is some life talk...
I feel that is just what, taking advantage instead of sharing. I'd
want to be sure I am only the second side, but for that be I'd have be
fulfilled, or wise enough to fulfill on my own, or to fill satisfied
anyway... It worked so far. Will it lighten, or move unto something
else... How much dedicated, and how much cooperative ?
Is my groung strong enough, can I make it better ?
What you think ? Can you tell me please ?
(O gentleness is a clue no matter what... Flowing our energies
together, in the same direction... So close together or not always ?).
With love,
Kriss